Wednesday, February 01, 2017

Elise's Junior Preference

Elise loved going to Preference with Conner!  We love Conner!  Our families have been friends forever.  We used to get together and watch American Idol with his mom and dad every week and the kids would play.  Elise and Conner used to play Spiderman and MJ when they were like 3 and 4.  Haha.  I think they re-enacted the upside down kiss at one point.  Lol.  I'm not sure but they looked guilty.

They had a lot of fun last summer in Lake Powell.  (I'm finally writing this 9 months after the dance, and Conner is on his mission in Mexico!  So cool!)

They had such a fun daydate!  I kinda wish I could have gone.  Gordon took them to Little Sahara and they went sledding at the sand dunes.  It looked kinda scary from the videos!  Like insanely fast coming down those big dunes.  She got some serious air on one of them.

She asked him with a Taco pack from Taco Bell that said, "Let's Taco-bout Preference" and he answered her with Cafe Rio Queso and a sign that said, "Que-so, I'd love to go" or something like that.  So clever.  Conner has a pretty funny understated humor like Elise.  Conner went to Westlake, but knew a couple of the kids from soccer.















Sunday, January 29, 2017

Tender Mercies

I taught a lesson in Sunday School today about tender mercies.  I loved the talks in it, particularly Remember, Remember by President Eyring.

I decided that I need to write down my tender mercies more often!  I used to blog more and it really helped me focus on the good happy things that were happening in our lives and I felt a lot of satisfaction from that.  It helped me appreciate all the blessings we have.

There have been certain times when I was blessed with something so specific to me that I knew it was a little gift send to help me through whatever it was that I was struggling with at the time.  It was clear to me in many of these moments that it was directly from God.  And other times I didn't see the blessing for what it was until much later.

But here is my list of Tender Mercies that I KNOW were sent at a specific time.

1.  Heavenly Father answers all of my prayers.  In high school I struggled somewhat with my testimony.  I didn't always KNOW the church was true.  But at one point I was very consistent with my prayers and I started realizing that EVERYTHING I asked for was given to me.  I didn't ask for huge things.  And some were silly.  Like let me see that cute boy after class again. lol.  But I realized that during this period Heavenly Father was showing me that there was a direct connection between the two of us, and it was obvious.

2.  Fun Friends.  After the fatal car accident, I was depressed and having a hard time with my grief.  My faith was shaken badly.  I didn't know if God was there.  We had one horrible night of racking sobs and frustrations with life.  I was heartbroken and in despair.  It was a dance night and all my friends were out.  I had not been asked.  (which was fine I went to lots of dances, but this night was hard to be alone).  The next day, a guy I thought was really cute called and asked me to come sledding.  I knew right away this was a gift.  We didn't really ever date, date, but we had tons of fun and adventures and it helped me so much to get my mind off of all the heavy feelings I had following the accident.

3.  Russia.  There were so many times in Russia that I was blessed.  I never identified any specific thing that happened there are a tender mercy.  But I know I was watched over by guardian angels.  They saved me from death by icicles.  That little tiny room on Cerafimovicha is where I had the most spiritual experience of my life.  Its how I know that Heavenly Father LOVES me.  

4.  Life with Jared.  So Jared and I met a few weeks after I found out my parents were getting divorced.  I never intended to get married at 19.  But when he came into my life at a time when my family was being dissected, I was so happy for his love and to be able to have him.  He knew all about divorce and was so sweet and so supportive of me.  I loved his commitment and his kindness.  I am really glad that I met the right person at an unexpected yet perfect time.

5.  Scholarship.  When Miles got really sick with ITP, I was having a hard time sleeping.  I was feeling so helpless, frustrated, angry, all of those things.  He had lots of bruises all over, he had just learned to walk and I was instructed to bring him in for an CT scan whenever he hit his head to check for a brain bleed.  This was comical, and even impossible, not to mention incredibly expensive.  Active toddlers hit their head often!  And you start noticing a lot more when you have to notice and it is STRESSFUL.  Like how can I do this?  Yet I don't want to put my kid in danger?  So we could not take him to any babysitters.  We had him all the time.  No nursery, no gym daycare.  We put a helmet on.  If nothing else it prevented his bruises.  Which was good because when people saw his bruises and I imagined they were judging me to be an abuser and that was kinda sad.  I wore him in a backpack.  I had him in his highchair.  Anything to keep him from tripping and hitting his head.  We went from one baby gear item to the next.  And I was worn out.  But sometime that spring after his platelets had recovered a bit, I received a letter in the mail telling me I had been awarded a scholarship.  Which was HUGE.  Because I really wanted that degree. Every semester I would register for classes, and then drop them when I realized there was still no money for school.  I was so glad to have the scholarship and to be able to finish my degree.  I know right away that scholarship was a little tender mercy.  I loved what I learned in school and feel that it really helped shape me.

6.  Trades.  We went through a really awful financial crisis in 2008 and were so broke.  But I felt incredibly blessed by the trades that we were able to make with our business.  It helped us be able to "spend" trade on things that we couldn't have afforded otherwise: piano lessons, voice lessons, waterparks, plays, gifts, photography, even food.  I think there was one solid month when we ate mostly the food from our gift baskets that we got on trade!

7.  Visiting Teacher.  When we moved to Highland, we moved to a ward that was enormous.  It had the biggest primary in the world at one point.  There were so many kids.  Right away we were called to nursery.  Problem was there were no rooms.  so they put us in a closet room.  No toys, food, chairs, tables, etc were provided.  Just one very small empty room.  It was harder than I expected to not know anyone and to start all over.  No one knew my name or who I was.  And that was surprisingly hard.  But we tried to make the most of it and we brought lots of fun stuff from home.  We got to play with Simone, etc.  One day a woman comes in and we start talking and I find out she is my new visiting teacher.  I LOVE her!  She and I talk and find out we have so much in common.  She asks me to run with her in the mornings, and invites me to the babysitting co-op.  It totally changed everything for me and was the biggest help.  And right after that our ward split and I got called to be a primary teacher.  But I know that VT assignment was no coincidence!

8.  I was running the Red Rock Relay with Jared and a few couples from our neighborhood in 2010.  We had a pretty fast team and we had an early start time.  So if you are familiar with relays, the fastest teams usually have later start times and the slower teams have earlier so that everyone completes the race in the specified time.  Anyway, usually you are running with other people in relays.  Or at least see people every few hundred yards.  But in this race there was no one around.  We were leading the whole race.  That means cars don't know to watch out for runners.  It also meant facing a big fear of mine which is running at night alone.  After being attacked on the street when I was a kid I just don't like being alone at night.  Well, this night I was running through the desert near St George.  Not realizing that we were heading into a very deserted stretch, my van had gone to find gas.  I was alone on a moonless night.  It was pitch black aside from a car here and there.  Then, my headlamp went out because the battery died.  I was panicked and terrified.  Crying terrified.  I said a prayer and my headlamp turned back on.  It worked until the second I passed the wristband to the next runner at the following exchange, which was probably about an hour.  The second I handed off, it went out for good.  I felt watched over.  

10.  doTERRA.  Did I write this here already?  I sometimes think about the path that led us to doTERRA and I know God had a hand in it.  September 2008 Jared signed up for doTERRA.  I wasn't excited about it.  He had been involved with other MLM companies and I didn't like them.  But I loved the oils, and I figured at least he was learning skills that would help our family learn how to use oils.  I figured it was as good a hobby as any.  November all of the companies we sold products for changed their restrictions on the certificates or just plain did not honor the ones we had just ordered.  We were so stressed.  We were left with thousands of dollars of products that were useless to us and our customers.  So Jared applies for a job--which is akin to admitting defeat and hard in and of itself.  He tells his friend about the job.  His friend gets the job and he does not.  I am heartbroken because we are broke and we need things like food and money.  I think he is foolish for telling his friend and am generally frustrated.  Later that month he introduces doTERRA as his focus at his business networking group.  I am very blessed to have some friends call me and hire me as their realtor.  Which really eases some of my fears about the future.  But I am still having very difficult days from time to time.  Jared is a champ and we try to rescue each other and at least trade off having bad days.  But one day was bad, bad.  And I was incredibly stressed and plead with God to please help us.  A few days later, Peggy Smith from the networking group where Jared talked about the doTERRA oils calls Jared and says, "God told me to call you about those oils."  Turns out her company shut down their direct sales line and she needed a new job.  After interviewing a dozen or more companies she chose to join doTERRA.  And within months of joining doTERRA she had replaced her other income, and become a founder.  During this time I saw our checks grow and it made me realize that there was actually a business potential to this MLM.  I always say Peggy made a believer out of me.  And that is in more ways than one.  

I have daily little tender mercies as well.  Sometimes it is a beautiful view or a sunset or just a really good day with my kids.  I am going to do better at recording those.  I think my little solo this month was a tender mercy.  But writing these down made me realize that through all of the hardships that life brings, I've always had a loving Father to help me through.  I know that without a doubt, he knows me and hears me.



Warp Speed

I'm so glad I got my little solo in at the beginning of the month!  I learned some valuable lessons from that "me" time.  And I needed the respite because January at the Wingers is a continuation of the holidays.

If I would have known that doTERRA was going to schedule two trips every January, I might have taken some family planning measures to avoid the three birthdays "birthday week." Lol.  And I certainly would not have chosen early February as our anniversary.

So we have two doTERRA work related "incentive" type trips.  The main trip to Cancun was sandwiched in between the girls lacrosse tournament in Palm Springs and Elise's preference dance.  Both of which I hate to miss.  So we didn't extend our time in Cancun at all.  Which is kinda nice to do when we are able because then we aren't quite so rushed with travel days.

To add to the crazy, my transmission went out on the way to the tournament.  We drove the 12 passenger van that was rented for us to replace the Yukon.  It was a beast!  We made the most of it.  But I literally had one hour from the time I walked in the door after the tournament after driving all night to get home, to heading to the airport to leave to Cancun.  That's a whole new post though!  And it was even kinda fun.  But it has made life more complicated!  I am now car shopping in addition to all the other things that are going on: dentist appts, orthodontics, chiropractic, haircuts, so many sports, ski bus, gymnastics meets, three birthdays, sick kids, cleaning, laundry and Sunday school lessons, lacrosse youth league responsibilities etc phew.  I'm tired.

I was so excited about all these fun things happening, that I didn't worry too much about the crazy chaos that was my life in between all these trips.

I think it finally caught up to me this week.  When is the last time I ate something green?  Not sure.  Its been awhile.  I am tired and run down.  And we have another trip to celebrate our 20th anniversary, and both Jared and I want to postpone it.  It is in three days and we are exhausted.  Traveling doesn't even sound good anymore.  And we will miss Monet's basketball playoffs which we really hate to miss.

So tomorrow we will see what kind of arrangements we can make and what the penalties of changing will be.  I'm thinking in the future a weekend away closely will be a little easier!


Wednesday, January 04, 2017

Solo

I am in a hotel all by myself right now.  I think this is the quietest couple hours I've had in years!  Not even kidding.  It feels good!

Jared is on a doTERRA trip and my mom is watching my kids.  So I have two days all to myself.  Today I drove to St. George.  I love driving the Tesla.  I love the autopilot.  I've noticed I've been much happier with my life lately and I am as busy as ever driving kids all day.  But it is so great to have a car that makes driving less tense and more relaxing and fun.  

So today while the car was charging I went for a run in Beaver. Can't stop multitasking!  Pretty exciting!  I was a little nervous running past a ton of cows.  Even though they were fenced I wondered if they ever charged?  Not used to that.  They were staring me down!

Then when I got here I went to Homegoods.  On my way I also hit Mend Juicery and stocked up on juice so I don't have to cook or look for food.  Ahhhh.   I also went to two furniture stores I really like, but don't get to much.

Then I got all checked in to this cute little Casita.  It is so fun!  I have all my hiking gear so I can set out tomorrow.  I did some rowing at the fitness center and took a long bath.

I think I am feeling pretty giddy right now because I'm going to watch a movie.  

On the subject of hiking, I have really loved hiking lately.  I go with a fun group of moms.  It is GOOD exercise, and I get my social time in too.  

I realized earlier this year I wasn't in a good place mentally because of my weight and health.  I cycle a lot with my motivation for eating well and exercising.  This year I was doing great with the exercise, but then got some allergies or something weird and was soooo exhausted I felt just like I was pregnant tired.  We went on a cruise and the allergies went away, but the day after we got home I sprained my ankle and was out for another 6 weeks.  I do love exercise, but when I get really busy I don't make it a priority.  So I end up stressed and unhappy.  I feel weak.  I noticed these feelings were amplified.  I've never felt them like that before.   

I thought it was about my weight, but really I think it is about my needing to feel accomplished and having something positive to start the day each morning.  Because I weigh just a little less than I did this summer, but the way I feel about myself has changed completely.  I think exercise is really important for mental health.  I've had to make a few adjustments like trying to keep my mornings free.  Elise and I were going to gym classes in the mornings for awhile.  And that was really fun to do that together.

I also hired a nutritionist.  It has made a big difference in the way I am thinking about food.  I hired her the first week of November.  November and December are sometimes really bad for me as far as eating because of the extra workload with the holidays and trying to fit everything in.  But this year wasn't terrible.  And I attribute that to having someone to be accountable to.  I am really liking working towards goals of eating more fiber, etc instead of just focusing on the scale.  I feel like the focus in on feeding my body good food and refueling the right way.  Its been fun! 

Hopefully the weather will be good tomorrow!  If not exercise then binge watching netflix sounds good too. :)


Tuesday, December 13, 2016

More Through the Years Pictures

Some more of my favorites while we were looking for family pictures.  Its fun to see them all at once and see the changes!












Gala 2011--Pregnant with Soren

Platinum!  Gala 2011









Through the Years

Its almost our 20 year anniversary!  I plan to do something with these photos our next anniversary.  But I think they are so fun! Moral of the story--get a yearly professional family picture--or at least get all dressed up and pretend it is professional.  I so wish we had done that since the beginning!  It's stressful but so fun to look at after all these years.  There are a couple years in there where we didn't even get a good picture with all of us in it.  Crazy! I have a few more to upload.  But these make me happy.
1996-Engagement Pictures

1997-Wedding

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2004--Pregnant with Miles

2005

2006 Pregnant with Simone

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Monday, November 14, 2016

Dear Daughters

We had to do a little write up for the girls for YW for this weeks Young Women in Excellence.  I figured I'd copy and paste what I wrote here!  It feels like such a treat to be asked to write about my girls.

Elise--
What I love about Elise is her calming influence.  She is a peacemaker in our home and gets along with everyone.  She is a leader as well and a great example in our family.  I love that she's wanted to serve a mission for as long as I can remember.  She is always setting goals and trying to improve.  She is adventurous and super athletic.  She has a dry wit that is very entertaining.  She coached Simone's lacrosse team this year and I loved her interactions with the girls, they sure loved her!  She is a great student and is always up for taking hard classes.  I love her integrity and her desire to make good choices.

Monet--
Monet has an incredible amount of determination.  She is a great example of consistency and perseverance.  She isn't afraid of working hard to reach her goals.  She is excellent at time management and is very organized.  She is a hard worker and very dependable.  She always says thank you.  If she borrows money I never have to say anything about it.  She will keep track and make sure to pay me back without me saying a word.   She's incredibly honest that way.  She is very nurturing and is a great babysitter.  And the last thing about Monet that I think is incredible is how great she is at memorizing things.  Movie quotes, scriptures, poems, etc.  she is really good at it!  When she was barely three she learned Helaman 5:12.

...The truth is I could go ON and ON and ON. Ugh. Such is the life of a mom! I love these girls!

Saturday, November 12, 2016

Election Catharsis

This week has been crazy!  So I'm using my blog to unload my thoughts about this election.

Let's start with a timeline.  Years ago, I did not vote for Mitt Romney.  I love Ron Paul.  I love his foreign policy, I love his abortion stance, I love his personality and how down to Earth he is.  He is so true to his principles.  I just really like the guy.

So I voted for Ron Paul.  I knew Mitt was a good family man.  I think he would have made a great president.  But I wanted to cast my vote with a candidate that was more closely aligned with my views.  Its a two party system so I knew that my vote wasn't going to really change anything.  My state would still vote for Mitt.  And they did.  But I hoped that my support of libertarian ideals would somehow influence future elections.

President Obama won the election.  I think Obama seemed like a nice guy.  Not someone I share political views with.  But I wasn't an Obama basher.

In the last 8 years, things have changed with Obama as president.  My health insurance now costs $9000 more per year.  I'm grateful that this didn't happen years ago when we were struggling financially, because I honestly don't know what we would have done.  I probably would have cried a lot.  Back then I would cry when I got a $50 ticket, and a $9000 extra cost would have changed a lot of things for us.  I feel bad for our friends who are struggling to pay their premiums.

Some other things have changed also.  I was horrified by the governor of California making vaccines mandated.  Kids who don't get the mandated vaccines have no other option but being homeschooled.  That made me mad as hell.  I don't swear, but I will here because it is exactly how I felt.  We KNOW that Hep B does absolutely nothing for children born to mothers who don't have the disease.  We KNOW the vaccine loses efficacy within 10 years of being administered.  There is no threat to other children for my kids not getting this vaccine.  Yet if we still lived in California, we would be required to.  That makes me really mad.  Its not right.  I am against the state deciding what has to be injected into my body.  It triggers all the feelings of helplessness and anger I had when Miles got ITP from his MMR injection.  I believe in transparency and informed consent.  I believe in tracking reactions so we can see what kind of results we are getting from an immunization in a broader scope than just whether the disease was affected.  I believe that trading autoimmune diseases for immunity to measles is a bad deal--which is what happened to Miles.

I care about our foreign policy.  I was encouraged by Obamas vow to get us out of war.  My liberal friends were so sick of war and so unhappy with the soldiers that were being sent to Iraq and Afghanistan.  I agreed with their disgust.  And then Obama bombed Afghanistan, Pakistan, Libya, Yemen, Somalia, Iraq and Syria.  And the peace loving liberals looked the other way.  It seems the Libertarians were the only ones taking note.  That seemed hypocritical and false to me.

Abortion is another complicated issue for me.  I learned what partial birth abortion was when Elise was a newborn and the internet was new to me.  I sat at my desk in my apartment with my sweet baby on my knees and cried as I read what it really is.  And the idea that there are people advocating for this using endless euphemisms and excuses really bothers me.  I will NEVER buy into the idea that the choice to kill your own child furthers the cause of women.  We have endless reproductive choices.  We have lots and lots of options.  And I believe in keeping those birth control options accessible.  I will concede to keep the emergency contraceptives available.  You can take an abortion pill up to 10 weeks gestation.  Why is that not enough for some people?  We have plenty of choices, we do not need partial birth abortion and D&C options.  Its barbaric.  Disabled babies are not disposable.  It is morally reprehensible to me that someone would choose to kill a baby because the baby was not perfect.  Sorry that sounds like something Hitler would do.  If the mothers life is in jeopardy, and a few of my friends have been in this situation, the hospital will deliver early.  One of my friends had cancer when she was pregnant and went through chemo.  She was advised to abort.  She delivered a healthy, perfect baby.  To me, the abortion issue is a no brainer.  Killing=bad.  Adoption=good.

So this brings us to the present day.  I never liked Trump.  I felt that somehow the world had gone mad.  Who were these people that voted for him in the first place?  What about Carly Fiorina?  What about Ben Carson?  There were other options.  I honestly felt that the only way the Donald was actually the nominee is because the media wanted him to be.  He was given much more time and attention than any other nominee.  That sounds like a great way to influence an election.  Choose the worst possible candidate to focus on, someone that would be so bad they would be easy to beat.  Honestly that was the only way I could figure that Donald Trump ended up on the ticket.   Its not hard to come to that conclusion.  Bill Clinton reportedly urged him to run.  The media gave Donald more than 2 billion dollars in media coverage based on advertising rates.  They published 29,019 stories about Trump.  I kinda loved that it blew up in their faces.

I mulled over voting for McMullin.  (pun intended--just couldn't resist).  I hated Trump so much I didn't even care who McMullin was or wasn't.  But what made me change my mind was all the encouragement McMullin was getting from the liberals.   Who is McMullin anyway?  All I cared about was that he was an alternative to Trump.  I knew he'd never win.  There were people saying Utah was just voting for McMullin because he was LDS.  That's not true.  He just popped up at the right time and was an alternative to Trump.  That's it.

I even considered briefly voting for Hillary.  But bottom line with Hillary, all of the things I care about deeply, are things that she is opposed to. I have a ton of issues with her past.  Number one, her husband pardoning Marc Rich on the last day of his presidency.  Talk about political favors and the elite buying their way out of everything.  The Benghazi scandal was particularly troubling to me.  The emails. That bugged me too.  What is she hiding?  The false charity organization.  That just bugged particularly because of the double standard.  Questioning Donald Trumps taxes when she herself was using her charity as a tax shelter.  I love Wikileaks.  Always have, always will.  I like TRANSPARENCY and I think we need more of it.  I think our elected officials should behave as though everything they do will be known by those who they represent.  Behind that little polished, every word carefully chosen, is a real person who needs to be revealed.  I don't care about your speeches.  They aren't written by you anyway.  I want to know what you do when you don't think anyone else is watching.

How could I not vote against someone who will put into play policies I don't want? And more importantly appoint judges that go against what is important to me?  Someone pointed out that Bernie supporters were super critical of Hillary, but they were all voting for her anyway when she won the nomination.  Even despite the DNC shenanigans.  They weren't willing to take a stand and vote 3rd party.  But they were encouraging the McMullin supporters.  That also seemed self-serving.

On election day, Jared and I discussed what the outcomes would be with our kids.  I told them there was no way Trump would win.  I really believed that.  But when Jared and I went to vote, we sat in the parking lot and talked.  And both of us changed our minds and voted for Trump.  For all the reasons above.  But mostly because there were NO moral options.  It was going to be Hilary or Trump.  And my vote was not Hilary.

I agree with Ron Paul, "We can't have both open borders and a welfare state."  I would pick open borders and have some kind of sponsorship programs or ways people can help get immigrants.  I also believe that birthright citizenship should be abolished.  I don't like laws that encourage people to have babies they can't afford to take care of.  I like that Trump at least recognizes that the current immigration issues need to be addressed.  Are we going to build a wall?  No.  That is ridiculous to me.  But I don't blame Mexicans or others for seeking a better life in America.  I just want us to figure out a way to get it done legally and in a way that is fair to all of us who are bearing the costs.

In response to the celebrities who said they would move if Trump was elected;  Miley Cyrus in particular.  Remember the song you were twerking to on live television?  You must know the lyrics to Blurred Lines.  I read them once.  The song was so catchy I wanted to see what it was about.  The non-radio version was the most disgusting, most awful rape type language I've ever heard.  So Miley, please don't talk to me about how you are morally opposed to Trump's talk about women.

I guess that's a big beef I have with the media.  The actresses and actors get on and give their little pitch about women's rights and sexual assault, but then they sing songs glorifying it.  And they produce movies that get ratings from violence and assault.  We should all learn a thing from Trumps awful video.  We need to think twice about the media we listen to and watch and think about how it is influencing abuse and objectification of women.

Back to election day.  I was SHOCKED with the results.  But I don't think that people voted based on fear and racism.  I think that for me, it was all about wanting my politics to have a voice.  I'm voting for my party.   And the irony of all of this is that those who are so against Donald and his bullying tactics are all on Facebook whining, bullying, and name-calling those who don't agree with them.

I did not vote FOR racism, hate, or any of those things.  I know that Donald Trump has said some really stupid things.  I don't like him.  This article in the Salt Lake Tribune really angers me.  Because we are between a rock and a hard place here.  Don't expect me to vote for your candidate if you are not going to court my vote.  If I have two corrupt options, I'm going to choose the one that can is more likely to give me what I want.  Pick a better alternative next time.